Tuesday, March 24, 2009

Stress a little here Stress a little there

Update

It’s time for the weekend wrap up and its Tuesday already! I hope the week continues to go fast.

Well the weekend was pretty nice actually. Tait and I went on our date on Saturday and the girls had a new babysitter. I recruited one of the young ladies from church and she came over and watched the girlies. She was great! Lehna wouldn’t stop talking about her. Lehna said they played picnic outside, they played beauty shop, hide and seek, and also horsy… LOL it was really good. I was so glad that Lehna was “okay” with her. I think it totally helped that she went with Tait to pick up her up b/c they could talk in the car. So then at church on Sunday she kept waving and her it was SOOO very cute! So we will have to invite her back b/c Lehna really enjoyed her. I think Maya did too but Maya didn’t really say much about her… LOL

Our date consisted of going to Monster Mini Golf which was a pretty “hooky” place but the black light made it a different challenge. Tait and bet on how many strokes we could get ball in the holes. We kind of played it like Name that tune so I would ‘wager’ that I could get the ball in 3 strokes and Tait could either go lower OR he would want me to prove it too him. Then if I did it… then I got points… If I didn’t but Tait was able to get it in 3 or less then he got a point. It added another “level” of challenge to it. We also had another “game” in which we weren’t allowed to say each others names instead we had to say terms of endearment. Which I personally thought it was unfair b/c I say Tait’s name WAY more then Tait says my name… and sure enough I lost. It was just another thing that we did just trying to enjoy each other more. We are both just so competitive so it was fun.

Then on Sunday we headed out to church and church was ROUGH for Maya mercy we had to take her out like 3 times it was HORRIBLE! She just would cry and loudly yell (not really crying but that annoying can’t hear anything around us sound) Lehna has figured out how to get out of church by telling us that she has to go potty and personally… as long as she’s quiet she can go there 50 times… Well she decided that today was the day she needed US to go with her… so she would whine AND on top of Maya not wanting to sit still it was rough. I think that the week prior to when we let the girls “run around” set a new percent for the girls… which was bad bad bad that we allowed it to happen but live and learn I guess. So next Sunday we are going to be in WI so we’ll have another new ward to drive them crazy.

Well time for update on the job front. Well the news is not quite what I wanted but not horrible either. I talked to the company that I was expecting an offer from. And she called me personally and told me that b/c the office is so low with hours right now they are actually doing shorter work weeks and claiming unemployment for days during the week since their hours are low and they can NOT bring on another person on their staff until after they have gotten past this low time. Which you know could be soon. They said that their hours are better this week then last week and better from two weeks ago but they aren’t where they really should be but the want ME! She said we totally want you and wanted me to know that. So I talked to her a little bit more about maybe doing some temp assignments for them while I’m “waiting” for a position with them to open. So that’s what the plan is. She said that they may even be able to put me in a perm position and if that happens she isn’t going to “hold” me for the spot there either which I think is nice. I am going to be up there at the end of April. Tait and I talked and seriously this living apart stuff is HORRIBLE. It’s one of the worst things that I have ever had to do it’s just so difficult it makes me so unhappy.

The other good news is well it’s “okay” news is the OTHER staffing company I talked to that is opening the office in Pleasant Prairie is still in the works and it’s in Legal now awaiting final approval. Apparently the home office which is located in Louisville, KY is expanding their warehouse for the new business from the contract they have in Pleasant Prairie and is going to need a new office manager/staffing supervisor for that satiate office. When I talked to him on Friday he said that the company is NOTORIOUS for delaying and then needing things to happen IMMEDIATELY. So he said that it could happen next week that they need the office ready. But he said that still very interested in me for the office and would continue to update me on the progress. So I informed him of when I was going to be up there so he knew and who knows maybe it will be before when I’m planning.

So the plans are that my employment will end here at the end of April I have a week of packing and moving and then I’ll be ready to go to work. I hope that I will find something before that time and I’ll keep my schedule as open as possible to get interviews and such and I HOPE that I won’t have to be a stay at home mom for long, but I am planning on enjoying it for as long as possible.

So that’s the news… I feel so much lighter now that the decisions have been made and that the plans are starting to take into affect. I need boxes bad so if anyone has any let me know OR if you can tell me where to get some… let me know and I’ll be on it.

That’s life in a small town though. I hope that things start picking up on the economy as a whole and we are able to move forward.

Friday, March 20, 2009

The Week is almost over...

Well I’m terribly excited that the week is almost over and the weekend is soon to begin. It has been a fairly fast week but I will be excited when I don’t have to worry about getting myself and my children ready for ANYTHING. So far everyday this week the girls were good at daycare. We did have a minor issue yesterday Maya came home with a slightly black and blue eye. She apparently ran into the corner of the table. It was just a little red yesterday but this morning it’s like defiantly black and blue. She seems to be okay with it, if you touch it, it seems to hurt her so I haven’t been messing with it nor has she.

Last night wasn’t very exciting. I had my visiting teacher come over I have a new one. And we sat and talked then she delivered the message and was out the door. It was kind of strange. She wasn’t there more then 20 minutes. I guess I’m just used to the Missionaries staying for an hour at a time. But it was a nice little time to share. She has 5 children (she has triplets) so we talked about our kids quite a bit and then shortly after that the girls went to bed. It was a pretty uneventful evening to say the least.

So this weekend I have a date planned and a babysitter all arranged. I’m very excited. We are going to go to Lafayette and play Monster Mini Golf. I think it sounds like fun it’s basically miniature golf just in black lights… so it should be a good time. Then after that we are going to dinner. So it should be a good date. We talked about playing real golf but I don’t want to spend the entire 4 hours of our “date time” on the golf course I want to be able to sit and talk to. So it should be fun.

We don’t have any other major plans this weekend. I need to kind of inventory my cabinets and start coming up with meals to get rid of things. So I will need to see what I have in there to see what else I need at the store to add to them to create meals. So that will be fun.

I have been keeping up on laundry this week so I don’t have much left to do. I have had to wash bed sheets TWICE for both kids this week. Maya’s bottle and pee was all over the her sheets and then Lehna Peed the bed on Monday night and I didn’t discover it until Tuesday morning… and then she left her slippy cup on the bed on Wednesday Day on her bed so it was soaking wet. Lehna has this BIG white teddy bear and I don’t know if she sat in the thing and peed on it but it was soaking wet. So I washed it and such but it still smells… is there a “trick” anyone knows to get rid of the pee smell out of a stuffed animal. It’s not discolored or anything like that but it still smells. I asked her if she sat on it and peed and she said yes… but she’ll agree sometimes to get a rise out of me… which I don’t think she did that… but mercy it still stinks. I washed it on hot too… so I don’t know… if I need to put lemon juice in the water or something… I don’t know… any suggestions… I’m willing to try. I told her that we may have to throw bear away if I can’t get it out and she goes “okay” LOL so she’s not very attached to it…

So that’s my life right now.

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Another update

Well we got another good report from the kiddos at daycare this week. So I’m sooooo happy! I hope it’s not a fluke and this is going to be smooth sailing from here on out… but who knows it’s too early to tell. I don’t have the ‘stress’ of that this week hanging over me so that makes it better.

Last night I was able to actually read my book. I didn’t get very many pages read but that is the first time I have even been able to crack a book open in awhile. I also was able to get on the Wii Fit last night. I hadn’t worked out in like 10 days on it. And I lost a pound (according to its numbers) I don’t use that as my “scale” so I will have to weigh myself tomorrow and hopefully it wasn’t a fluke. I did the advance Hula Hoop and man my hips and thighs were BURNING… so after some step aerobics I was done. LOL I know it wasn’t very much but I was tired. I really need to find some time for palates again… I really enjoyed that and it was “easy” it only takes like 30 minutes to do… just where I put in that time. Maybe I will try to do it after I get the girls to bed tonight… If I’m not too exhausted.

So the birthday plans… LOL still don’t have a clue. I think we will be in WI, which I think will be fun. I asked Lehna what she wanted for her Birthday and good lord the kid wants like 50 things… and I had to stop her at one point and I go “Lehna this is your birthday NOT Christmas” and she got mad at me… LOL so says she wants: Hannah Montana dresses up clothes and toys, Princess Shoes, Princess Barbie, A big Dora, and those fairy things that you see on TV. She went into detail about what princesses and etc but I didn’t catch all of it. I asked Maya what she wants for her birthday and she goes “babies” LOL She’s so easy. You could get her a baby every holiday and she would be very happy. So it’s only 2 weeks away so I still have time to decide what to do. LOL

This is what’s going on right now. I know short and sweet.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Dreams

I haven’t been dreaming very much right now and whenever I do have a dream that I remember it usually always gives me so insight as to how I’m doing “inside” Well last night I had a dream, and I wanted to share.

So I dreamed last night that I discovered I was pregnant. It was pretty much the entire theme of the dream. I dreamt that I was feeling kind of ill and I started smelling everything and it was starting to become a nuisance and then it HIT me. Like literally I was like ‘hum this only happens when I’m pregnant’ well then I started getting worried b/c we don’t have insurance right now b/c Tait’s new job insurance hasn’t started it yet… so I didn’t want to go to the doctor to confirm it so I bought a test and sure enough… two lines. So then I wanted to make DOUBLE sure. So I stocked out the doctor at the hospital and he was coming out of the hospital and the hospital looked like a big workshop (like a wood work shop) and I asked him to “examine me” by feeling my belly… LOL so he said that he would… and so he said “well I can’t say 100% but I think you are pregnant” Then I was like GREAT that’s just what I need! So that was pretty much all of it… I mean the rest I was just kind of freaking out and afraid to tell anyone… didn’t want anyone mad at me… LOL I know CRAZY!

So I looked up the dream… and well I think it’s kind of right on w/ what’s going on in my life.

Pregnant

To dream that you are pregnant, symbolizes an aspect of yourself or some aspect of your personal life that is growing and developing. You may not be ready to talk about it or act on it. This may also represent the birth of a new idea, direction, project or goal.

Pregnancy Test

To dream that you are taking a pregnancy test, may be a metaphor for a new phase you are entering in your life (a new job, relationship, etc.) You may feel that you are being put to the test as to whether you are prepared or ready for these changes.

Workshop

To see a workshop in you dream, represents the development of your skills. You are trying to understand your Self and find out who you are.

Abdomen

To see your abdomen in a dream refers to your natural instincts and repressed emotions. There is something in your real life that you "cannot stomach" or have difficulties accepting. You need to get it out of your system.
To dream that you abdomen is exposed, signifies trust and vulnerability. You may be expressing a desire to express your primal emotions/instincts.
To dream that your abdomen is swollen, indicates that some new project is in the works


So I thought it was pretty interesting. It defiantly shows that I have some anxiety about what’s going on with the job search and waiting for “the call” Dreams are crazy like that… at least they are for me… there is always something about them that seems to jive with what’s going on in my real life. I kind of think that’s what dreams are just a reminder of what’s going on and brings about the “anxieties and worries” that you really can’t wrap your brain around ‘YET’

So I also had a spiritual message come to me last night (early this morning)… this was right before I woke up and I can remember it plain as day and the spirit whispered “Stephanie you are not putting your faith in God, why is that?” I mean I can remember the question PLAIN as DAY! So when I woke up I pondered the question again. It’s something that I am struggling with right now, not just b/c of the job search and moving and etc but about other things too. So I guess that all my anxieties, stresses, worries, and all the unhappiness that comes with not putting the faith in the right places is what’s making me so crazy. It’s been a hard couple of days mainly b/c I have a problem with internalizing EVERYTHING so when things don’t go my way I normally blame myself. I don’t think I’m the only person in the world who does this but man it makes me unhappy when I do it. I’m working on trying to be happier. I try to look out for everyone’s happiness and I tend to ignore myself. I’m a working progress. I definitely don’t have all the answers I’m like an incomplete picture I kind of vision of it on an etch-n-sketch… and as I draw the lines I mess up and have to shake it and start alllll over. Frustrating but that happens.

On the up side of things. Lehna has gotten WONDERFUL reports from daycare EVERYDAY… So much that yesterday after I picked them up I took them to Arnie’s then to the park. It was SUPER PACKED and watching two kids when the park is PACKED is HARD work! So we didn’t stay long but we did pick up ice cream on the way home… then it was STRAIGHT in the bath… Maya was COVERED it was cute… but MESSY. So then after I got them cleaned up… Lehna asked for something out of the treasure box and I let them (I know I spoil them but they were SOOOOOO GOOD!) And so they got suckers… well then the sugar HIT they were bouncing… which I expected them to do… and so then after awhile they slowly dropped off… and they were in bed by 7:30. It was a great evening. So I was glad.

So after a couple of emails to the company that I interviewed with last week the news is they haven’t forgotten about me. They are doing a big marketing campaign right now and it takes off on Thursday so they have been swamped with that (which I kind of thought they might have problems getting my references done in 2 days) so the word is I should know something by Thursday/Friday so hopefully it will be big smiles not frowns. I am fairly certain that I got the position if I didn’t then I will be like SUPER surprised. So hopefully that anxiety will be laid to rest and I’ll do better in putting my faith in the right places. I saw a falling star this morning and I made a wish. You know I can put faith in Stars but struggle with Faith in God… doesn’t make sense does it. I know I’m complicated.

Well that’s all for now…

Tuesday, March 17, 2009

A Weekend in Review

Well this weekend was pretty good we went up to Wisconsin on Thursday night and we made pretty good time we only had traffic up at the tail end of our journey and it could have been b/c it was about 5-6 so it was their rush hour so that’s probably why we had just a little traffic, it was moving just had lots of pausing and then going… So then coming back the traffic was great… got home in a little over 3 ½ hours. So that was wonderful.

The weekend itself was really good too. I had an interview on Friday that I thought went pretty well. They said they would call me either Monday or latest by Tuesday, I’m still waiting. So hopefully that will move along a bit more quickly today. I hope. I know that they haven’t contact my owner or any of my references so that DOES have me concerned.

So we went to the Children’s Museum on Saturday and that was a lot of fun. Maya ran from exhibit to exhibit and it was fun to watch her climb on it then get off and jump on the next thing. It was really cute. Lehna was good she wanted to spend more time looking at things. She stayed with the post office area for quite some time while Maya went from bank to grocery store to auto repair… I guess she was just running her errands… The museum opened their new “forest park” exhibit… so they had Smokey the Bear and Woody thee Owl there… well Lehna DID NOT like them. She cried and around every corner we would make sure he wasn’t there b/c she just cried and cried… It was really cute. I was sad that they got rid of the “ball exhibit” for this thing… which I liked that exhibit b/c you used a golf ball and watched it roll around, I know doesn’t sound very exciting but it was…

After that we headed by Tait office it’s in the middle of the ghetto in Milwaukee so it kind of looks like a fortress. After that we took the girls to the park because it was such a nice day. Tait’s parents have a park just down the street from their apartment complex and there is a HUGE lake right next to it. So we went there to check it out and the girls played for about an hour or so. It started getting chilly b/c of the wind coming off the lake but it was fun overall.

After that I went shopping. I had really wanted to go to the outlet store and every time we go there we are always too busy so I wanted to pop by and see what kind of sales they had. I was in luck they had this really cute dress and I NEVER by dresses that I picked up. It looks cute on me. I also got a couple outfits for the girls and then headed back to Tait’s parent’s apartment. You know really exciting stuff.

Tait and didn’t get a date this weekend but we had a good time none the less. On Sunday we looked at different places to rent. Tait got the numbers of them and he is going to set up appointments to look at the properties and see what happens with those. They are all houses nice size so we’ll see what happens. We also visited our new ward that we will be going to when we move to WI. It was a pretty big ward unfortunately they didn’t have WARMTH as our current ward does. We got there a ½ hour late b/c they apparently start at 8:30 instead of 9… they have a Spanish group that meet at 11:30… so that’s why they start earlier. So maybe that’s why we didn’t get the warmth b/c they started earlier, even the missionaries weren’t very warm. I asked the one where our class meets and he said that it was down the hall and he was wrong… So that was fun. The Relief Society kept asking what my contact information was as far as where I live and I told them that I didn’t know yet… I mean seriously… I don’t know, but they asked me 3 times then kind of got snippy the third time and go “well do you have any leads” crappy I might add. So that was pretty interesting.

The girls had an “okay” day on Friday so I had stopped at Target for stuff for the drive up and both were rewarded. They had the Disney Princess Barbie’s for 6 bucks… they were on close out so I get Lehna and Maya one. Yesterday Lehna had a GREAT day. I got a call from the pastor after I had picked Lehna up and he said that they kept her and the “other” girl away from one another today as much as possible and that seemed to help Lehna quite a bit so that makes me happy. And Lehna even slept for Nap time! So hopefully we will continue with a good trend the rest of the week… if not then we will deal with it as it comes. I hope that it will be a good week.

So that’s what’s going on. I forgot my camera of COURSE so I don’t have any pictures from the weekend.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

Wacky Wednesday

So I think the world has slipped off its axis well maybe just my side of the world… LOL so yesterday when I was at work… I got a call from the Pastor telling me the Lehna REFUSED to take a nap… and that she was waking up everyone and he wanted me to talk to her to get her to behave. The FIRST words out of her mouth were “mommy I want to you to come pick me up” and I told her NO I’m at work and she has to behave… I told her that all the other kids were watching her and were misbehaving b/c she isn’t listening… I told her that I was disappointed that she was behaving so badly. Sooooo then after giving her my “behave speech,” which incidentally I’m getting tired of saying every 15 minutes, I talked to the Pastor again and he just goes “well thank you for talking to her and we are just trying to get this under control and we are really trying to get the parents as involved as possible” And I said “you know that I’m trying everything I CAN with her to get her to behave, and nothing is working” and he said “well I appreciate that you are trying and he apologized for calling me at work and said that he hopes that me talking to her works” Well first of all… what did he accomplish… she wanted to talk to me… she wanted to tell me that she wanted to come home… so he rewards her by letting her talk to me… so now she understands… Hey if I’m REALLY bad then I’ll get to talk to mommy. Idiots!!!!

Then when I picked her up… she and her friend, the same friend that convinced her to poop her panties, pushed Keyton and Maya into the Nursery and slammed the doors on them and THEN held them against the wall and wouldn’t let them out. Yeah AWSOME! So when she got there I talked to Elizabeth again and just was so upset I don’t know what to do.

So no what to do, I mean this CAN’T continue… it just can’t… So I talked to Tait and well… this is my new plan. I feel that there are only a couple of options… I either takes them back to the old daycare in Crawfordsville, Talk to Elizabeth about her doing home daycare, or look for another daycare someone that is capable of handling them. Well my problems with the “solutions” getting her to Crawfordsville every morning would mean we have to leave our house no LATER then 5:30… right now I’m getting them up at 5:30 so that would make EVERYONE more tired, on top of that THAT would mean they would spend 11 hours at daycare in ONE day. The problem with a Elizabeth watching her… first of all she doesn’t have a car so if they get hurt they would have to call an ambulance… and I won’t be able to control who comes in and out of her house… so I am not comfortable with it… so the only VIABLE option is going to be looking for another daycare. I don’t know if more change is going to make the situation worse or if it’s going to make it worse… it’s horrible and I totally don’t know what to do. But I just don’t think that this daycare is the solution. I mean if we have to pay more… we might just have to pay more I mean I don’t know what else to do. She needs more structure and better discipline. I mean part of the problem is there are only 2 staff members to 15 kids… which that means 7 per teacher… that’s quite a bit to handle no matter who you are… and I know for a FACT that most of the people watching them are high schools students in the afternoon (who don’t really care) and the older ladies which I don’t know how much experience they not enough to handle 7 children.

So that’s where I am with it. I’m so worried about it its making me crazy. I have tried bribing… that’s not working… even though she gets upset that she doesn’t get anything but it’s not enough of an incentive for her to behave. I realize that I think her “friend” is somewhat to blame to b/c I think that child is a little wild too and the pair probably is REALLY hard to deal with. I mean Lehna can be a bully but I have NEVER had these problems before both so far she’s had a ton more structure then what’s she’s getting now… So I hope that is the problem but shaking out this old behavior from Lehna is getting tiring… I mean she has a total attitude with me she has a mouth on her… yesterday at church she was getting in the bathroom and I was getting Maya out of the bathroom and Lehna promptly tells me to “shut the darn door” and it wasn’t darn… (Sigh) seriously she is turning into a version of ME! Lord help us ALL! I just don’t know what to do…

So that’s where I am… I am just really stressed about it and I feel like I’m coming unglued. I can’t get the kid to behave. If anyone has any suggestions please suggest away b/c I’m running out of strength to get this under control

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

Tuesday’s Turning Point (I realize it’s Wednesday but this is in Reflection)

Okay so I’m at a turning point. I have decided it’s a turning point b/c I am so miserable right now that I think that the ONLY way it’s going to get better is if I turn my thoughts on to happier things and really get a better outlook on it. I know the week that I was positive it seemed that I had a much happier week so I’m going to try to get back in that mood of things. Things just really suck right now and I’m ready for them to get brighter, but those are of things that I can’t control. I have a problem with letting go of things that I can’t control. I don’t think that I would describe myself as a control FREAK but maybe I am. I like to feel like I have the power to make things happen and feel sad and miserable when I can’t control the outcomes of things. So maybe by definition I am a control freak.

I guess I don’t want life to be easy because where would the challenge be I just wish that I got a few more breaks. I feel like this past year I haven’t really gotten many breaks and the sad part is I don’t see any lights at the end of the tunnel either. But I am done feeling sorry for myself. Again most of the things that have happened to me are things that I can’t control and it’s time to move forward. It’s time to slap on the happy face because my girls are watching and just tread through this gnomons pile of dung and hope that at the end I get a shower. I have many things in my life that I have to be thankful for and that’s what I need to focus on. You know even superhero’s have weaknesses and I have decided I’m not going to let mine hold me under. So here’s to the turning point.

Yesterday when I picked up the girls from daycare I heard that both kids were bad. Lehna decided to take her “friends” advice and poop her panties and then she deliberately bit the teacher so she could go to Time out. THEN Maya refused to listen to anything the teachers said and when I got there she wouldn’t come over to put her shoes on… I had to threaten her with leaving her behind 3 times before she would come over. So needless to say they both got black X and neither got stuff out of the treasure chest. They then said that they don’t enforce naps and neither girl decided that they wanted one… I was like REALLY you mean a 3 & 1 year old didn’t say “yeah I’m tired I think I need a nap?” WOW WHAT A NEWS FLASH!!! I mean what you mean you don’t enforce naps… I mean the KIDS don’t know them NEED naps… I mean why are they letting the KIDS run the daycare instead of the TEACHERS run the daycare… so the kids cry a little at first… so what they are kids they will eventually get over it… good lord… So you know now that I KNOW that they aren’t enforcing naps… I don’t really feel THAT bad that they are acting up and acting bad I mean they are TIRED and grouchy… THAT’S why they are acting bad…. It doesn’t take a genius to figure that out. I mean give me a BREAK!

So when we got home Lehna asked the entire way out of the daycare if she was going to get a toy… and I waited until we were about home and she asked me again… and I said “Lehna is it GOOD behavior to bit people” and she goes “no” and I go “Lehna is it GOOD behavior to poop in your panties on purpose” and she goes “no” and I go so why would I reward your BAD behavior with a toy… and then the fit started… I was totally anticipating it so that’s why I waited until the car. And she cried for about 2 minutes then PROMPTLY fell asleep. So we got home both her AND Maya asked about a toy and I told them both no… So the fit was kind of ongoing last night… So needless to say it wasn’t very happy in my house last night. There was a lot of “Lehna stop, Maya get down, STOP FIGHTING!, so on and so forth” I gave them baths and they were in their beds by 6:45… no they didn’t fall asleep until 7:15 but that was a ½ hour earlier then what they have been going and every day that they are bad at daycare they are going to go to bed early that night… in hopes that the NEXT day will be better.

So I feel bad b/c tonight I am teaching YW and I have to take the girls with me… so they won’t get to bed tonight until like 8:30 which will totally SUCK for tomorrow morning… AND tomorrow we are heading up to WI b/c I won a ½ day off at work so I get to use that on Friday and I’m just using the entire day to go north to WI! YEAH! So that should be the trip interesting if they are tired and grouchy… but I’m HOPING that they sleep! Then it won’t be so bad… I hope. But that is another thing all together. There are many things that have to happen before now and then. I didn’t pack yesterday and I SHOULD have… so when we get home tonight before YW we are going to have to pack the girls so I won’t have to do that tonight, I’ll save and pack myself tonight. I need to get the dog area ready to go as well you know fun stuff like that. I’m excited about going north for the weekend there’s just some tasks that need to be completed before we can go.

Well that’s all I have for now. I’m staying positive and hope that my happy smile will help the girls behave b/c I know that me being sad and miserable isn’t going to help them and will only make things worse.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Monday Madness

Okay so it wasn’t quite madness. Lehna had a GREAT day! She got up on her own on Monday and was excited to get dressed (she wore a dress to school so she was excited about putting it on) then we got her to school and she went right in no worries no chasing me down the hallway or anything like that. Maya was a little rough though. She woke up crying to Tait and I told her we could call her and she really wasn’t interested in doing that. So it was really sad  I got her dressed and out the door. Both girls since they were corporative in getting them out of the door went and going straight in, I had enough time to get Starbucks Yummmmmmy.

When I picked them up they said that Lehna did great she had a really great day. Lehna was happy and smiling. Then they gave me Maya’s Story. She had a bad day. She pinched, scratched, and knocked another little kid down. (sigh) So my children have changed places. So when I picked her up we had a talk about how it wasn’t nice to pinch and hit and etc etc. And when we got home I let Lehna pick out of the treasure chest and Maya didn’t get anything. Then later on that night I asked Lehna to pick up the room and told BOTH girls that who ever picks up the most gets to pick out of the treasure chest I have NEVER seen Lehna move so QUICK! Maya on the other hand was more interested in watching Dora and so she didn’t help… she would pretend she was going to then just turn her head and ignore us. Man why didn’t I try the treasure chest BEFORE! So I’m hoping that we can keep the trend up with Lehna. I think that Maya is just jealous of all the attention that Lehna is getting so I think that I will work with Maya on getting her behavior where it should be. I know a lot of the problem is Maya is only two and doesn’t really understand but she does understand enough pick up at the old daycare they said she was the best toy cleaner… so I know she KNOWS how to she just is doing it on purpose.

I feel bad for the girls. I know that they really miss their daddy during the week and it is really hard for them. I hope that we can really give each girl their own “special” time with Tait on the weekend to try and smooth out some of the roughness during the week. I hope that I will be there in WI soon I truly do but until that point we have to keep pressing on.

I started watching DWS last night but I was so tired that I didn’t watch all of it. I didn’t come into it until 8:30 so I missed the first groups then I watched for about an hour and then promptly fell asleep. So I didn’t catch the end. I DVRd it so I will be able to watch it tonight but from what I saw I think its’ going to be a good Season. I really think that the Jewel’s husband that cowboy did a good job… he has a LONG way to go but he did a good job from what I saw. He is just so uncomfortable it kind of amusing to watch.

Last night after putting the girls to bed I was coming out of their room and I saw the missionaries coming up to the door. Since Tait isn’t home they couldn’t come in but I talked to them on the porch for a good 30 minutes. I think that HF sent them too me b/c I was really feeling low. So it was a nice pick me upper. I really like both missionaries so it was nice to be able to talk to adults.

I have been trying to come up with some sort of game plan for the girls’ birthday at the end of this month but haven’t really found anything yet. We are going to be in WI so I just don’t know if we should do something with the grandparents or if we should plan an activity like the zoo or bowling alley… I just don’t know yet. Tait and I are going to think about it. I don’t even know what to get them… I have a few “ideas” but nothing that is OVER THE TOP… Lehna said she wants her BDay cake to be Hannah Montana… which I fully expected but since the girls have a JOINT cake… I don’t know if I should go that route… I don’t know… again it’s all in the early stages of planning. I mean its’ just 2 & 4 so I don’t know… we’ll have to think about it a little more.

Well that’s the summary of how yesterday went. I didn’t work out yesterday but I’m definitely going to be doing that today… I mean I teach palliates on Wednesday and I haven’t even done them 8 weeks!!! So that’s what my plan is for tomorrow… luckily I’m not going to have to fill up the entire 2 hours… so THAT’S a blessing… probably just 30-40 minutes and we can SURLY do it in that long. (Yeah!)

Monday, March 09, 2009

A weekend in Review.

Quick note for Friday. Lehna was GREAT. She did well enough that the director came over and said what awesome day she had. So that’s great news… So she got her toy on Friday instead of Saturday.

This weekend was REALLY GREAT! I had the best weekend I can’t even begin to describe how awesome it was. Tait came home on Friday night and I was so tired the poor guy barley got a “hello” it was a really rough week this week with Lehna being bad and just emotionally tough for me. I was being haunted by old ghosts this past week. So on Saturday Tait and I took the girls to Marcus and Jackie and they played their little hearts out there. I hear that they were REALLY good… which I’m glad b/c my children have MULITIPLE personalities so I’m glad that the ‘good one’s’ were out.

So with the girls being watch Tait and I went to a movie. Tait REALLY wanted to see the movie “The Watchmen” Wow let me tell you it was something… DEFINTELY NOT a girl movie. It was full of gore and sex… well to be honest there wasn’t “that” much sex… but what was there… was ENOUGH. The gore was seriously horrible… I mean they cut people’s arms off and that kind of junk. Yeah not exactly my cup of tea… LOL Tait kept telling me that he was glad that I came and that he was sorry that it wasn’t something I enjoyed… I really know he wanted to see it but I think I get TWO girl movies out of this one… wow. It was just really graphic which I realize that it followed a comic book and comic books are notorious for being graphic b/c they are books… and well… this followed to that script. I mean the story was long too. It took 1 ½ hours just to set the dumb movie up… LOL OH well at least I get two chick flicks out of it. Of course I haven’t seen a good chick flick that I WANTED to see since… hum… oh I don’t know… it’s a be a REALLY long time.

After the movie we went for a lunch at Logan’s. It was really nice date. We picked up the kids both were dressed in different clothes… they had ice cream and played REALLY hard at the park. It was really nice being able to have a date with Tait, I didn’t get one last week so it was a nice catch up date.

On Sunday we went to church and the girls were difficult, not super horrible but Maya is REALLY struggling holding still for the entire length of sacrament… it was the same with Lehna at this age so we will grind through it… She really wants to crawl underneath the benches… you know. That’s what she wants to do… it’s so annoying… b/c you kind of grab her and then you have to pull her back and then she cries… (sigh) Kids.

After dinner Tait took Lehna to the arcade at the bowling alley to have some alone time with her. I think this helped Lehna quite a bit. She told Tait that she had a really fun time. Lehna and Tait played at the arcade for about an hour and then Lehna told Tait that there were too many mean kids there and asked to go for a walk. So Tait and Lehna went for a walk.

At the same time, I was at the dollar store with Maya getting rewards for the treasure chest. I bought all kinds of kid make up, lip gloss, hair toys, Easter eggs with candy, bubbles, crayons, Hannah Montana toys, Princess toys, etc. I mean I got a TON of things for Lehna to “reward” her when she has good behavior. I told her on Saturday that it was full of toys… (but I didn’t get anything until Sunday) then on Sunday I told her it was filled with toys… which it is… but she begged for me to let her look in and I told her no… I am trying to keep the anticipation up… of course after this week she will know what’s in there… but I figured this would maybe help this week. But since we are going to WI on Friday I told her that we will let her get her reward on Thursday. She is going to be at daycare for ½ a day on Friday so I figured it was okay… You know always giving her the benefit of the doubt.

So then after that we meet them at culvers and we had Ice cream together as a family. It was another nice day… nice family time. Maya totally RUINED her pants and shirt however… I have never seen a kid get so messy it was HORRIBLE. I took her pants and shirt off and took her out in jacket and diaper… I couldn’t believe it… it was so nice outside it wasn’t that big of a deal. When we came back home… we tired to do a nice family nap… yeah that wasn’t very successful. Lehna was WIDE awake so we told her she didn’t have to lie down but we put her in the play room and she had to stay in there. Maya was “kind of tired” and I put her in her crib and she cried a little… and I fell asleep for about 15 minutes and then she was calling for us… and it was b/c the power had gone out… so, so much for family nap time. We took the girls in the front room and we played out there for a little bit. I called the Sheriff so they could get someone out to put our power back on… Tait was like “don’t call the sheriff call the town marshal” but I know from experience that the sheriff is the way to go… b/c they call the power company directly… and with in 45 minutes we had power.

It was really a nice weekend. We are going north for the weekend and hope that we don’t run into traffic on Friday. That would not be very fun… but we’ll have to see what happens. Tait said on the north side of Chicago they are doing some major construction where it’s going down to two lanes… so HOPEFULLY I will be going at time that that won’t matter… but we’ll see. I’m just glad that Tait won’t have to make the journey south… it will be a nice break for him. I am planning on meeting with the Racine Office on Friday afternoon then on Saturday there is ANOTHER test that I have to take for a position so… I’ll be doing that Saturday morning… yeah fun! I hope that it is better then the test I took for the general clerical test but I have a feeling it’s going to be harder  that will suck… but maybe just maybe it won’t be too bad…

Well that’s what going on around here… I hope that Lehna has a good week. I think the one on one time with Tait REALLY helped her… this morning she was GREAT… and My mom sent some special things for her to work on at daycare so hopefully those will be successful and we will be able to keep a trend of good behavior up for you know three, fours. I know that soon I’ll be up in WI… I can feel it… I hope it happens sooner rather than later… but I have faith that it will happen.

Friday, March 06, 2009

Thursday Update.

Well yesterday when I picked up Lehna I got seriously mixed reviews… so I gave Lehna the benefit of the doubt. LOL
I heard from Elizabeth that she was “about as good as Wednesday” and then from the Director he said “she was really much better today then she was yesterday” He also added that the “new incentive program I started with her really seems to be helping her” LOL He has only known about it for a DAY and she’s been on it for 3 days… and one out of those days she was in TO (Timeout) for biting…

But she didn’t get put in TO at all yesterday they threatened her once but she behaved and wasn’t put in TO but I figured that it was good enough for a sticker but NOT good enough to move her reward day to Friday… and Lehna was in agreement with that… So I told her that today if she is EXTRA good… you know, lays down for nap (they haven’t been making her nap), listens the FIRST time to the teacher, and helps out during clean up time and school time that I would give her the toy today. So hopefully that will be enough for her to behave  I hope!

So this week I worked out on the Wii Fit again, yesterday I had unlocked a new boxing game so I wanted to try that again. So I tired it again last night and I put it up a little on the advance part and MAN it was HARD! It goes so fast they give you the pattern and then make you do it at fast speed… so I didn’t do too well. I can tell you however that my upper back and arms are KILLLLLLING ME! So at least I know its working. I also like the step aerobics on it. I have unlocked all but one balancing game and I have one aerobic game let but it looks like some kind of running game… not exactly my cup of tea. It said that I had gained LBS but that was seriously RIGHT AFTER I ate AND it was at the end of the day but I am down one lbs from last week so I’m getting there… I don’t think I’ll be at my 50 lbs goal, by Easter, but I should be pretty close  hopefully with me getting back on the exercise train that will make it come off easier.

This week has been pretty tough emotionally and physically, I think it’s just in the air this week. I haven’t been trying to keep the positive outlook so that’s been weighing me down. I do have faith that things will get easier. I wish that I could just snap my fingers and all the things that I want changed will be changed you know… so forth and so on… but unfortunately that isn’t in the cards right now which is just a real pisser… but what can I do, besides just keep pressing forward.

Well Tait comes home this evening. This morning I woke up and thought YEAH IT’S SATURDAY! Then I started to Panic b/c Tait hadn’t come in yet… and Lehna was in the bed… I thought that it was strange that he didn’t come wake me up to let me know he was home… so I waited and waited… and then I was like… WAIT it’s FRIDAY MORNING… not Saturday… hate that! So I’m so glad that Tait is coming home I have missed him terribly this week. We have a date planned for Saturday and it should be tons of fun. Movie and dinner can’t go wrong with that combination.

So I think that next week is going to be a busy week so that should make the week fly by… at least I HOPE IT DOES! We are going UP to WI tomorrow… it should be fun. I have to meet with the Racine Office Friday Afternoon and then I am going to take another State test for the HR position on Saturday. It should be fun. LOL and hopefully we are going to start looking for a place to rent. I know it’s kind of premature but I want to see what’s out there… hopefully we will find something fun. I know Tait is excited b/c he doesn’t have to make the journey down. Then the following weekend Tait comes to us… then the LAST weekend in March we are going BACK up… There is a BIG job fair that Tait’s company is going to be at and a bunch of other companies… and I’m hoping to make some contacts for SOMETHING… I hope… so I probably won’t be up in WI by the end of March like I said earlier this week… but it’s pretty early in the month yet… we never know…

So that’s life right now… pretty exciting right?

I’ll post to let you all know how Lehna did today… please let her do well… please!

Thursday, March 05, 2009

Wednesday Review… really quick

Yeah the report was bad on Lehna… when I got there she was sitting in time out for bitting another child… I thought we curbed the bitting a LONG time ago!!! So we are back to square one… after a nice 2 hour fit for me (she cried the entire drive home and then extra once we got home) we moved her reward day back AND gave her a black X… So we are trying again today. She said she was going to be extra good today. So I hope… I hope hope hope… I’m going to just stay as strict as I can… it’s hard to do that b/c she’s such a good negotiator… And I feel badly b/c she is ONLY 3 but I hoping that she’s better today… no deals just good… I hope. So I’ll let you know what happens.

Wednesday, March 04, 2009

Just a quick one

I have been forgetting to post that our Land line has been turned off. I had been debating whether to do this for a long time and so I finally decided that is just wasn’t worth having any more. So if you need to get a hold of us you will need to call our cell phones. We have new numbers so the 307 phone number doesn’t work any more… if you need my number email me or post a comment on here stating that you need it and I’ll email/text it to you.

Also just a quick one… Lehna had a GREAT day yesterday… So bribing helped thank goodness!!! She was actually really good well the comments were “better than yesterday” so that’s a step in the right direction. So my mom talked to her and I really tried to beef her up for doing so well yesterday at daycare. When we got close to daycare this morning I asked her if she was going to have a Black X or if she was going to have a sticker and she said “I’m going to get a STICKER!” So I hope hope hope this works… just let me get through this week… You know.

So that’s all I have. Last night was pretty uneventful… just talked to the really unhelpful people the SBC again… yeah! Joy to me!

Have a good Hump Day!

Tuesday, March 03, 2009

Monday look back.

Well it’s sad to report that I think Sunday WAS the way that the week was going to start for my little Belle. I got yet ANOTHER horrible report from Daycare. They said she refused to listen, kept telling the workers that she just didn’t care, and did her own thing… boy this all sounds too familiar. Man HF has a sense of humor… This is total paybacks I realize that but I’m going to go INSANE!!! So on the way home… the movie was turned off and Lehna sat in silence. I then took her to Wal-Mart to pick out ANY toy she wanted… she looked for a good 15 minutes… and then she selected the barbies from High School Music 3 that’s what she said she wanted… so I talked to her about her behavior and we got her a Disney princess calendar with Hanna Montana stickers and I explained to her that everyday she is good we get to put a sticker on that day… but if she gets a BAD report then we put a black X on the day and the “reward day” goes back one day… I put the toy on top of freg and told her she can look at it from a far but she can’t have it until her Reward day.

My mom also talked to her as well last night as well and asked her why she was acting so bad at daycare and her response was “I don’t know” of course. So my mom told her that she would get her some special books to work on at daycare and that when she is listening at daycare then she will be able to work on them. One of the workers there told me that it would be okay to do that with her. So hopefully we will get those and maybe the one on one attention will help I mean I don’t know what else to do. Mom said she would call tonight and see how she did. When I put her to bed last night she got out of her bed and I told her of course to get back in her bed and she goes “please don’t call Nana” I told her I wouldn’t but if she gets out again I’ll call her. She went right to sleep so maybe that will help.

I just know this is so hard and she is acting out b/c she’s unhappy and stressed out what’s going on at home. I mean I know that she will adjust but I don’t know what to do it’s so frustrating and I feel so bad that she is going through this but seriously I don’t know what to do, I can’t just quit and leave… b/c I am more responsible than that… I guess we are going to have to get through this one day at a time.

Today when I dropped her off at daycare I explained to Olga what was going on and I told her about her special toy and about how she can earn her toy on Friday if she’s good… and she said that she didn’t realize that Tait was gone and how that could be upsetting her, I mean don’t the teachers talk there? I also told them that she will PUSH them as far as she can go so hopefully she will get better.

I just want her to behave and adjust to this and hopefully hopefully I get a job soon so we won’t have to live like this for the rest of our lives.

Weekend Update!

Well the weekend again FLEW by which just sucks I hate that when that happens. Tait came home again this weekend and that was again super wonderful. I think that is what made the weekend go by so fast. I don’t know what the plan if for this weekend yet b/c the following weekend we are going up to WI there is a job that I want to apply to and the require YET another test… so it’s scheduled for March 14th so I’m going to get that take taken and go from there… Hopefully I will have some good news about the one job and get something set up with them, as of last week it was delayed until this week. I just want to be out of here by March… that is my goal… I hope I hope I hope…

We were pretty busy this weekend. On Saturday we headed up to Lafayette to see Helen in the hospital. It was a very busy scene. Helen had many visitors on Saturday it was packed. We stayed there for about 45 minutes and then headed out for some shopping and dinner. I got to eat at Red Lobster… my FAVORITE place to eat it was fab. Tait was telling me that on the south side of Milwaukee there are some GREAT restaurants that he has heard about… tons of seafood places so that makes me happy… I love seafood. So we’ll have to venture there ONCE I get there…

I went to the mall and took the kids to the play area and let me tell you it was a freaking zoo. I thought it would be a good time for the girls to stretch their legs. Well it was okay at first but then the little monkeys made it a war zone not just specifically my children but after about 15 minutes of watching the other kids push my kids around and having NO PARENTS correcting them I thought I would rather take them with me and kind of corral them in the store. So I got a few outfits I am down now… 4 sizes now… I am in the size I was in high school so that’s exciting. I think I still have a few more lbs then I did in H.S but I am pretty excited. Of course I would probably be doing much better if I actually worked out more… I started to get back on the horse yesterday so I’m hoping to exercise at least 4 times this week. Next week I’m planning on doing palatines with the YW at church so I need to refresh my memory since I haven’t done them in like 6 weeks!!! I can’t believe it has been THAT long!!! Crazy Crazy… So we’ll see what happens… I am loosing weight but I think it’s b/c of my stress I found that I’ve been Turing to cookies rather than good things though so I bought more veggies and fruit this week so hopefully I’ll stop doing that bad habit I just DON’T want to put it back on I would be SUPER sad if I did that.

On Sunday we went to church in the morning and let me tell you my kids were seriously the WORSE children in the entire church. They were sooooo horrible I had to take Lehna out TWICE to spank her… I mean seriously SPANK her and she was that horrible… Maya was bad too Tait took her out and put her in time out and she cried the entire time… after the second spanking and timeout they were WORLDS better. But mercy… they were horrible and it’s not like they are out of practice I mean we go EVERY WEEK! I don’t know if they just get impatient… I don’t know I have to come up with something to keep them busy… I need like oriental trading magazines or something b/c I seriously think that would help keep Lehna entertained… of course I’m sure she will say a million times “I want that for my birthday” I haven’t seen my kids this bad in awhile… it was sooo horrible. My kids aren’t angels but mercy they were bad.

By the time Sunday school came around I was sooooo ready for them to go to primary. When I got to YW I had to teach and the topic was “Honoring your Father and Mother” LOL I thought that was funny and I told them NOT to behave like my children did in Sacrament… LOL my they were awful. I just hope that that isn’t the way the week is going to go. I got ANOTHER bad report from Lehna on Friday about how awful she was. I just don’t know what to do with this girl. I know that she is very unhappy b/c Tait isn’t around but seriously… I don’t know what else to do… I can’t be unemployed not in THIS kind of economy… I hope the big man gives me a break soon before I seriously have a BREAK DOWN!

The girls were so upset when Tait left this weekend. We were getting them ready for bed and we told them that daddy was going back to WI and Maya didn’t want to go to bed and Lehna cried and cried. It’s just so hard on them I just don’t know what to do. It’s so sad to watch them cry and not know what to tell them I mean we told them that he was going to come home this weekend but I don’t think they understand. So it’s just so hard for them.

I need to keep a positive attitude but mercy its sooooo incredibly hard right now. It’s just so difficult I don’t even know what to do about it. It’s making me TOTALLY CRAZY! I wish I could have anxiety pills or something some thing help keep me mellow.

Last night Lehna got sick all over her bed. I am assuming its b/c she had way too much candy during the day that was a huge mess. I felt horrible b/c she was so upset when she went to bed b/c Tait was leaving and then she got sick… Poor baby. I put her in the shower but I think she was half asleep so she cried the entire time. I kept telling her to calm down or it was going to make her throw up but you know she’s three and didn’t quite listen to that advice. By the time she was showered and new PJ’s Tait had changed her bed sheets and she was back in bed in like 15 minutes the poor kid went right to sleep. I felt so bad for the poor baby. I just don’t know what I’m going to do with my little Belle.

I am seriously hoping to be in WI by the end of March I will be seriously sad if we aren’t celebrating the girl’s b-days in WI… I know stop whining suck it up and deal with it. I know I know. Marge told me last Thursday “at least you don’t have 4 kids to mommy right now” I was just thinking… that is SOOOOO true b/c if I had any more… I would seriously need tranquilizers…

Well to another day…